What is Your Self Care Style?

Something I’ve learned during my journey of self growth and healing, as well as in my work with clients is that we all have different forms of self care. 

Now I always ask my clients what THEY do for self care, and help them to prioritize those things, maybe adding something else that they resonate with. Some people don’t have anything they consider self care so I offer some of my favorites, but often I’ll find that they have a wonderfully specific and individualized self care routine. 

Here’s a list of my self care go to’s:

Meditation

Journaling

Going for a walk

Reading, watching, or listening to something inspiring/interesting/spiritual/or related to self growth

Spending time with loved ones and/or pets

Knocking out one or two things on my to do list to relieve stress

Treating myself to something delicious and/or nutritious that I love

Yoga or gym time

Self Reiki

Receiving a healing/massage/pedicure/hypnotherapy session/etc.

Breathing techniques

And here’s some other ideas I use or have heard of

Rock Climbing

Playing a video game

Watching your favorite show or movie

Going fishing/golfing/skydiving/etc.

Reading something entertaining

People watching

Taking a bath

Using essential oils/crystals/cbd/etc.

Affirmations/I am statements

Getting dolled up

Having a cup of tea/coffee/wine

Having a morning routine

Bible study

Enjoying intimacy with self or partner

Stargazing

Going for a drive

And the list goes on!

The point I am trying to make with this post is that, it doesn’t matter what you do. What is your self care style? Once you figure that out and have your own list of go to’s, you can build a routine that supports your health, happiness, and growth. 

You can also mix and match, try new things, and learn the best things to do to help pull yourself out of a rut. 

There is so much out there now that shows how much more productive we become when we take time for self care. Stress is reduced, we become happier, calmer, and more able to cope with challenging situations. We also begin to enjoy our lives more, which pretty much sells it for me!

I’ll go more in depth into different forms of self care like meditation, journaling, breathing techniques, etc. on later posts, and I already have videos on some of these topics over on my youtube channel Here.

Thanks for reading!

I hope you have a lovely evening and that you take some time to think about what builds you up, what fulfills your soul, what keeps you motivated.

What is your self care style?

Much love!

~Arianna

 

It’s all about joy. 

I can pull out all sorts of scientific research, or quote some Abraham Hicks, but in order to get my point across I’m going to share my personal experience. 

I dealt with PTSD, major depression, and general anxiety for the majority of my life and had been through the whole traditional psychotherapy system for years. I have been on a whole cocktail of mood stabilizers, sleeping pills, antidepressants, antianxietys, and antipsychotics. I had even put myself in the hospital for suicide. 

What got me out of it was actually a semi-funny story about a terrible therapist who made me angry enough that I decided I was going to get better on my own. I spent the next few months almost frantically learning about meditation, psychology, spirituality, yoga, healthy food, and pretty much anything I could get my hands on. It was nice coming back to that part of myself also, since I had grown up being obsessed with world religions and philosophy. 

Eventually, after months of meditating every day, eating well, exercising, journaling, etc, I had a moment during meditation where I realized that I didn’t want to die. It was incredible! 

Over the years since then, depression symptoms have returned when I stopped doing my self care routines, or when new traumas came along, but every time it came back, I got better and better at leaving it behind. It was as if I had found the treasure map!

A few years later I was pulling myself out of depression again and had been meditating and reading consistently for a few weeks. I was meditating and began to laugh because I had the most ridiculous realization. 

The whole point of all the things I was doing and the whole point of life IS TO BE HAPPY. So why not just be happy now?

I laughed as I realized how much of our mood is just a choice. Even though in my darkest periods it seemed impossible to ever be happy, now I knew that if I could just remember that my actual goal in life is to be happy it becomes something I can move toward. 

My mentor, Marisa Peer, often says that it’s not our experiences that make us who we are, it’s the meaning we place upon those experiences. 

I used to use the traumas and years of depression in my life as a way to put myself down, call myself weak, or be disappointed that I wasted so much of my life. Now as I work with clients I see all the pain and struggles that I went through as pure gold! I am able to relate with my clients because of the things that I went through and it makes me a better healer. In fact, if I hadn’t been through those years of depression, I wouldn’t have studied it so fervently and now found my wonderful career as a hypnotherapist that fulfills me every day. 

It does take some practice, some reframing, some shifting, but making a choice that you want to be happy every day can make a huge impact. If you’re caught in a worry spiral, you can remember that you want to be happy and put worries aside for the moment and find something to do to make you feel better. 

Listing things that you are grateful for every day has been shown to improve overall happiness in the moment, and over time. 

I could talk to you about the more “woo-woo” experiences I’ve had that have reinforced this truth, but just trust me and Abraham Hicks on this one; the whole point of this life is to experience and create joy. And joy wouldn’t be as joyful without some contrast to compare it to which is why life is so rocky, but also why when I came out of depression the first time and looked around at the world I wept with pure joy and bliss because I was so grateful to have made it through the darkness. 

It is easy to get caught up in the stresses, the worries, the errands of the day, but try to remember that all the things you are working toward and worrying about are there because you want to be happy. Shift your thoughts and remind yourself that you actually want to be happy. 

It’s all about joy!

Have a beautiful, blissful day!

Arianna

 

When I first began striving to have my own healing career I hit a lot of snags. I found that I’d get a lot of momentum going toward something, then it would sort of fizzle out, I’d lose motivation, or it wouldn’t seem to go anywhere.

I have been studying spirituality, healing, metaphysics and self development ideas since early childhood, yet something always seemed to get in my way. 

The simple realization that upleveled my life is:

Learn from the people who already are where you want to be. Stop taking the advice of those who are nowhere near where you want to be. 

I had heard this over and over again as I studied and grew but it didn’t sink in until about 4 years ago when I was listening to John Assaraf interview highly successful people. As I listened to him say this message that I’d heard from so many sources, I realized that I had been taking advice from all the wrong sources for years. 

I would study, practice, and reach a place where my intuition was guiding me, but then as we all do, I would excitedly share my plans with my friends and family. The people in my life are wonderful, and supportive, and everything they were telling me was because of the intent to help me, but none of those amazing people were doing what I wanted to do.

No one that was giving me advice had their own business, none were in the helping field, none of them understood the things that I had been learning for years, and I realized that when I listened to their advice I would lose my shine, my drive, and my intuition. 

I’m not telling you to ignore all of your loved ones, I just want you to be aware of what advice you are taking. Is the person giving you financial advice well off, or are they broke? Is the person giving you relationship advice in a truly loving and fulfilled relationship? Are the people telling you how to move forward in your life living the kinds of lives that you really want to live?

I was lucky enough to meet my mentor, Marisa Peer, in person and study under her when I knew that her method was how I wanted to help people. But before I met her I filled my mind with other teachings. I found successful, authentic people that resonated with me and I read their books, I listened to their interviews, I watched their videos. I began to put more credibility behind the advice of the millionaires, the blissful, loving entrepreneurs and healers that inspired me. 

I kept my intuition strong by not asking for advice from those who were not where I wanted to be, and by taking it with a big fat grain of salt when they offered it to me without my asking. 

I trust my self now, and I have found that the more I trust my own intuition and the lessons that resonate with me from people who inspire me, the more my joy and success expand. Since I had that simple realization, my business, my spirituality, my joy have all grown so quickly, it is amazing!

So trust yourself and listen to the advice of the people who are already where you want to be.

I hope this helps and that you have a beautiful day!

Arianna

Hello lovely!

This blog is going to be a place for stories, tips, and info about how to live a fantastic, fulfilling life without negative thoughts and behaviors holding us back.

I’ll begin by sharing that I’ve been in the dark. Though I spent years studying psychology, meditation, and spiritual practices to heal depression and PTSD, I always fell back into it.

It was not a good feeling to know everything I needed to do to get better, but not have the drive to do them.

It wasn’t until I was at the Rapid Transformational Hypnotherapy live training that I figured out why it kept coming back.

But I’ll get to that in a bit.

First I want to tell you about how I met Marisa Peer.

I have spent years of my life learning how to heal my own depression, and it was my mission to find a way to help others in a quick, yet profound way.

I felt the call to go to Mindvalley Reunion in August, 2017, even though I had never spent that much money on myself. I went, yet when I arrived I was at another low point. I wanted to die.

Then Marisa Peer went onstage and hypnotized the whole crowd of over 800 people.

Her voice brought me to a realization, and then to a renewal. I opened my teary eyes feeling like I would be alright, feeling self love creeping back into my heart.

Then I went to the bathroom and fixed my lipstick and saw that someone had written “I am enough,” Marisa’s famous message to all of us, on the mirrors. The lady next to me said, “Isn’t it great?”

“Yeah, I want it on all of my mirrors,” I replied.

And then Marisa came out of the stall behind me and said, “I think it should be on every mirror, all over the world.”

I had a big fan girl moment, but I pushed past it and got the courage to talk to her. When I told her that she had me rethinking my current school plans, she told me more about her course and I knew that I had to be there.

I had absolutely no idea how I’d pay for the course, especially since my fiancé and I had to find a new house at the same time, but I let all my fears and doubts leave and just moved forward knowing that I would be there.

And when I was there, I got to have a live session with Marisa in front of my fellow students and she helped me find the reason why depression kept knocking at my door year after year. It was life changing, phenomenal, and more than I could have hoped for.

Now I am filled with such joy that I’ve been blessed enough to have these healings for myself and even more thrilled that I am able to help others in the way that she helped me. Marisa Peer, and her fantastic hypnotherapy course changed my life. 

I am still going to fan girl over Marisa, because not only is she an incredible healer, she’s powerfully confident, yet so humble and loving. It was an honor to learn from her and her fabulous staff.

I’ll link to her site below if you’d like to know more about her and the transforming work that she does.

www.marisapeer.com  

Thank you for reading, and if you check back in the future I’ll be discussing the ways that the mind works, how we can shift our beliefs to our benefit, and lots of other tips and tricks to help you feel in control of your life and your happiness.

Much love!

~Arianna