What is Your Self Care Style?

Something I’ve learned during my journey of self growth and healing, as well as in my work with clients is that we all have different forms of self care. 

Now I always ask my clients what THEY do for self care, and help them to prioritize those things, maybe adding something else that they resonate with. Some people don’t have anything they consider self care so I offer some of my favorites, but often I’ll find that they have a wonderfully specific and individualized self care routine. 

Here’s a list of my self care go to’s:

Meditation

Journaling

Going for a walk

Reading, watching, or listening to something inspiring/interesting/spiritual/or related to self growth

Spending time with loved ones and/or pets

Knocking out one or two things on my to do list to relieve stress

Treating myself to something delicious and/or nutritious that I love

Yoga or gym time

Self Reiki

Receiving a healing/massage/pedicure/hypnotherapy session/etc.

Breathing techniques

And here’s some other ideas I use or have heard of

Rock Climbing

Playing a video game

Watching your favorite show or movie

Going fishing/golfing/skydiving/etc.

Reading something entertaining

People watching

Taking a bath

Using essential oils/crystals/cbd/etc.

Affirmations/I am statements

Getting dolled up

Having a cup of tea/coffee/wine

Having a morning routine

Bible study

Enjoying intimacy with self or partner

Stargazing

Going for a drive

And the list goes on!

The point I am trying to make with this post is that, it doesn’t matter what you do. What is your self care style? Once you figure that out and have your own list of go to’s, you can build a routine that supports your health, happiness, and growth. 

You can also mix and match, try new things, and learn the best things to do to help pull yourself out of a rut. 

There is so much out there now that shows how much more productive we become when we take time for self care. Stress is reduced, we become happier, calmer, and more able to cope with challenging situations. We also begin to enjoy our lives more, which pretty much sells it for me!

I’ll go more in depth into different forms of self care like meditation, journaling, breathing techniques, etc. on later posts, and I already have videos on some of these topics over on my youtube channel Here.

Thanks for reading!

I hope you have a lovely evening and that you take some time to think about what builds you up, what fulfills your soul, what keeps you motivated.

What is your self care style?

Much love!

~Arianna

 

It’s all about joy. 

I can pull out all sorts of scientific research, or quote some Abraham Hicks, but in order to get my point across I’m going to share my personal experience. 

I dealt with PTSD, major depression, and general anxiety for the majority of my life and had been through the whole traditional psychotherapy system for years. I have been on a whole cocktail of mood stabilizers, sleeping pills, antidepressants, antianxietys, and antipsychotics. I had even put myself in the hospital for suicide. 

What got me out of it was actually a semi-funny story about a terrible therapist who made me angry enough that I decided I was going to get better on my own. I spent the next few months almost frantically learning about meditation, psychology, spirituality, yoga, healthy food, and pretty much anything I could get my hands on. It was nice coming back to that part of myself also, since I had grown up being obsessed with world religions and philosophy. 

Eventually, after months of meditating every day, eating well, exercising, journaling, etc, I had a moment during meditation where I realized that I didn’t want to die. It was incredible! 

Over the years since then, depression symptoms have returned when I stopped doing my self care routines, or when new traumas came along, but every time it came back, I got better and better at leaving it behind. It was as if I had found the treasure map!

A few years later I was pulling myself out of depression again and had been meditating and reading consistently for a few weeks. I was meditating and began to laugh because I had the most ridiculous realization. 

The whole point of all the things I was doing and the whole point of life IS TO BE HAPPY. So why not just be happy now?

I laughed as I realized how much of our mood is just a choice. Even though in my darkest periods it seemed impossible to ever be happy, now I knew that if I could just remember that my actual goal in life is to be happy it becomes something I can move toward. 

My mentor, Marisa Peer, often says that it’s not our experiences that make us who we are, it’s the meaning we place upon those experiences. 

I used to use the traumas and years of depression in my life as a way to put myself down, call myself weak, or be disappointed that I wasted so much of my life. Now as I work with clients I see all the pain and struggles that I went through as pure gold! I am able to relate with my clients because of the things that I went through and it makes me a better healer. In fact, if I hadn’t been through those years of depression, I wouldn’t have studied it so fervently and now found my wonderful career as a hypnotherapist that fulfills me every day. 

It does take some practice, some reframing, some shifting, but making a choice that you want to be happy every day can make a huge impact. If you’re caught in a worry spiral, you can remember that you want to be happy and put worries aside for the moment and find something to do to make you feel better. 

Listing things that you are grateful for every day has been shown to improve overall happiness in the moment, and over time. 

I could talk to you about the more “woo-woo” experiences I’ve had that have reinforced this truth, but just trust me and Abraham Hicks on this one; the whole point of this life is to experience and create joy. And joy wouldn’t be as joyful without some contrast to compare it to which is why life is so rocky, but also why when I came out of depression the first time and looked around at the world I wept with pure joy and bliss because I was so grateful to have made it through the darkness. 

It is easy to get caught up in the stresses, the worries, the errands of the day, but try to remember that all the things you are working toward and worrying about are there because you want to be happy. Shift your thoughts and remind yourself that you actually want to be happy. 

It’s all about joy!

Have a beautiful, blissful day!

Arianna